The other day I asked my daughter how she was doing emotionally. She has been extremely busy lately as a fulltime college student who works part time in a pretty demanding job. She told me she was feeling emotionally “blah” as the stressors of finals, work demands, and trying to maintain a social life was taking its toll on her. What she was telling me (that she didn’t know she was telling me) that she was trying to find her balance.
Now we all know if you are ever going to experience any level of success in life you have to make sacrifices. The problem comes in when we live our lives in a constant state of sacrifice. We must maintain a balanced life.
Work life balance is the balance of priorities and time. God intended for your life to be balanced. It’s not uncommon for people to be so focused on their careers and ambitions that they tend to lose their balance. In other words, they sacrifice time needed in other areas of their life in order to achieve. This accounts for why so many famous athletes, artists and professionals have poor health, marriages, and parenting skills. Success in one area of life at the expense of another is a price far too high to pay.
When you live a balanced life you can do more. It is a kin to lifting weights. The most I ever bench pressed was 350 lbs….ok 250lbs, but if the weight on the bar wasn’t balanced, I wouldn’t be able to lift half of that.
We all know someone who seems to find the time to do almost everything, and they do it well. If you examine their life closely you will see that they balance and budget their time to ensure the important things get done.
If you are going to experience a truly successful life you must be able to obtain and maintain balanced. Here are a few suggestion on how.
Prioritize Your Life. I read the story of a man who had a brush with death and was given a second chance at life. Experiencing his death bed thoughts gave him a whole new perspective on life. I doubt that your final thoughts in life will be spent on your income or position.
Identify the important things and schedule time for them. Each day you should make a list of things to do and prioritize it. On that list should be task associated with work as well as with life. If you don’t plan and prioritize activities such as prayer, exercise, or attending your child’s ball game, they tend to get sacrificed on the altar of good intentions.
Be flexible, but not too flexible. Things happen that can throw you off schedule and that’s ok as long as your priorities don’t change. Being flexible means temporarily moving priorities around in order to make them fit in your schedule. But be careful. If you constantly move your priorities, you have no priorities!
Learn to Delegate. Paul said I can do all things through Christ, but he didn’t say I will do all things! For the sake of your time and the development of others, if someone else can do a task then let them. Just remember when delegating, you are delegating the task, not the responsibility.
Know your limits. Most ants can lift up to 50 times their body weight, but they can’t lift 60. Knowing what you can and cannot do will save you time. It will spare you from trying to produce something that you can’t, or producing it at a psychological and emotional price that cost you far more than it’s worth.
Develop a disciplined lifestyle. A balanced life comes at a price. Like anything of value in life to obtain it requires holding fast to the process. Discipline is the product of enforced obedience to the process. If you set the priorities for the important things in life and discipline yourself to do them, you too will find yourself experiencing balance.
I’m Andrew Freed and you are an Overcomer In Christ!