I recently had to minister to a father whose young adult daughter revealed that she was addicted to pornography for close to a decade. He was heartbroken. “I feel like I let my daughter down. I am a decent man, a good father, but how could I let this happen?”
Pornography takes no prisoners; it is a violent attack on the soul. Its effect is so potent that one encounter can consume the heart.
Pornography addiction is real. Some consider it more addictive than any drug because it is socially acceptable and easily hidden. However, the addictive effects are the same on the brain, on the wallet, and on the heart.
Pornography is big business
In 2007 the porn industry in the US was estimated at $10 Billion in annual revenues. By 2011 it was reduced to half that amount due to free internet sites. However, revenues from internet porn went for $1 billion to $3 billion between 2007 and 2011.
Pornography is far reaching.
The following statistics were taken from Covenant Eyes, internet accountability and filtering site that I highly recommend every home should have:
After an analysis of 400 million web searches & data taken from Internet users who took part in the General Social Survey, researchers concluded that
- 1 in 8 of all searches online are for erotic content.
- Men are 543% more likely to look at porn than females.
- Those who are politically more liberal are 19% more likely to look at porn.
- Those who have ever committed adultery are 218% more likely to look at porn.
- Those who have ever engaged in paid sex are 270% more likely to look at porn.
- Over a quarter of 16- to 17-year olds said they were exposed to nudity online when they did not want to see it.
- More than 7 out of 10 teens hide their online behavior from their parents in some way.
- More than half of boys and nearly a third of girls see their first pornographic images before they turn 13.
- More than 1 in 5 searches are for pornography on mobile devices.
The porn industry is dangerous.
Testimonies from porn stars reveal that those who participated in the pornography industry are unhappy. Most suffer abuse, drug addictions, and alienation from both their families and normal society.
It is parent’s responsibility to protect your children from internet pornography.
No child should have a screen connected to the internet in there room – period. Be it cell phone, tablets, computers, or Wi-Fi television the sensation of pornography is way too dangerous for any child to reckon with alone.
Neither child nor parent should be without some sort of filtering device. Accountability is the key to protection.
Here are three things you can do to prepare yourself and your child when – not if – they come in contact with porn:
- Educate yourself. Learn the impact of porn and the ways it can creep into your home. Don’t allow the excuse of not being tech savvy prevent you from protecting your home.
- Talk to your children. It’s best to talk to them before they encounter porn and prepare them. Give them a plan of action of what to do when they encounter it. If you have just discovered your child already encounters it, don’t panic. Open a dialogue with them in which you can express how you feel about it. Also, establish accountability and parameters that will prevent them from engaging. If need be, get help
- Inspect regularly. Research how to check browser history. Know what apps are on your child’s devices. If there is one that is unfamiliar research it and what it can do.
Oh and that father…he is ok. It turns out that the whole ordeal drew him closer to both God and his daughter. I’m just glad that my daughter allowed me to be a part of her deliverance as God walked her through it. Thanks Dari! I’m so proud of you. Daddy loves you so much!
I’m Andrew Freed and you are an Overcomer In Christ.