“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”
James 3:16 KJV
Strife will eat your lunch! It is a demonic tool that should be avoided at all cost. If strife is prolonged, it opens the door to all types of negative energy from sickness to financial devastation. In another post I talked about what strife does to the believer and how the enemy uses it. In this post I want to discuss how to overcome it and stay out of it.
Crucify the Flesh
Most of the time when you are in prolonged strife it is a flesh issue. Flesh is self centered. In other words it looks at “me” “how I feel” and “what I want.” If you can look past yourself and see the other person’s issue it becomes easier to stop strife. As long as you stay in a self centered state, chances are that strife will continue.
The first step to ending strife is to examine your heart. What role are you doing that is keeping the fires of strife burning? Are you being unreasonable? Are you offended?
Look deep into your soul to see if you are operating out of pain or dysfunction.
Sometimes dysfunctional behaviors are so ingrained that te bonds of wickedness develop strongholds. In such cases try fasting to break those patterns and produce peace.
Recognize who is the real enemy
Ephesians. 6:12 tells us that we don’t wrestle with flesh and blood. The person or people that you are in strife in is not the problem. They may be yielding themselves to the real enemy but people are not our problem. The true author of the strife you are engaged in is demonic.
Focus your aggression in the spiritual warfare of which our weapons are not carnal. (1 Corinthians 10:4) Try to remember every time you demean yourself to carnal warfare (arguing, revenge, backbiting) you are fighting in an arena that you have no help from the Spirit of God. You are literally fighting in your own strength. In such situations even if you win, you lose.
Begin to operate in Love 1 Corinthians. 13
Love is an unbeatable spiritual force that your enemy has no defense against. When we operate in love – displaying patience, looking for the good not the bad, not keeping a record of wrong – then we position ourselves for the power of God to intervene.
1 Corinthians 13:7 says love never fails. Even though initially it may look like you are losing, when it is all over and done with, you win.
Humble Yourself & (1 Pet. 5:6)
To humble mean to make lower or to esteem others before yourself. It is to put others desires and needs before you. It does not mean to make yourself of insignificance. See my post on Be Humble.
Sometimes to end strife it takes taking the high road by going low. Does it really matter whose right? For the sake of peace within, and positioning with God, it may require you to yield. The benefits you get from peace when you sleep at night and being in a position where God can move on your behalf supernaturally far out weighs being right.
Humility should be a characteristic trait of Christians, but it does not mean that you should be a doormat. If you are always required to yield to another person’s desires in order for the relationship to work, then the relationship should be examined. It may require you to cultivate mutual respect, or at least regulate disrespect. If that doesn’t occur you may need to eliminate the relationship all together.
Cast Your Care upon the Lord 1 Pet. 5:7
After you have humbled yourself to another person, the exchange can seem unfair. That’s when you have to cast your cares over to God. It takes having faith in God to truly say “I am no longer emotionally invested in this situation.” It’s not that you don’t care about the outcome, it’s just that your trust in God frees you up from worrying. When you trust in God, He will take up your cause and ensure your destiny. If you do these things, you will be on your way to overcome the strife in your life.
I am Andrew Freed and you are an Overcomer in Christ.
I am Andrew Freed and you are an Overcomer In Christ.