No one wants to be a quitter. In fact Never Quit has been a banner in my life. However, there are times when you have to throw in the towel in order to cut your financial losses, to stop wasting time, or just to be emotionally free.
You may be thinking about quitting your job, jumping out of a toxic relationship, or leaving some other commitment you made. Knowing when to say when can be difficult, especially if your heart is in the situation. But if you don’t move on it can be difficult to enter into and enjoy the next place in life that God has for you.
Holding on too long and not realizing the situation is over can drain you of energy, passion, and life. It can blind you of your future and cause you to be stuck emotionally.
So here are a few tips to help you know when its time to quit and turn the page.
Are you holding on for emotional reasons?
Emotions are self-serving. Anytime you make a decision to keep at it purely because of emotional reasons, you probably are making a decision to please yourself in spite of the turmoil and loss you and others around you may be experiencing.
Now there is a difference between an inspirational decision and an emotional one. An inspirational decision is sound decision with inspired motivation through either an internal or external force. An emotional decision is based off of feelings alone. Make sure your decision to hang tough isn’t an emotional one.
Are you consistently experiencing more frustration than fulfillment?
You should expect good and bad experiences with anything. When you have negative experiences for extended periods of time, that is a signal that something must change.
Are you valued in your relationship?
Being valued in relationships is essential to having a fulliling life. Any relationship you are in that you’re being de-valued needs to re-evaluated. It doesn’t matter if its your roommate, your boss, or a significant other you need to valued.
Often we are not valued in relationships because we have made mistakes. If people refuse to look you in a new light and can only look at you through the mistakes you made, then its time for a change.
Is this commitment taking a toll on your mental, emotional, or physical health?
It’s not normal to have a drink before work! The wrong job or a toxic relationship could increase hypertension, heart disease, and other stress related disease. Even the wrong church can contribute to depression and burnout.
Before You Quit Identify The True Source
Often frustration comes from not working in your purpose, or being in the wrong place or with the wrong people. Whatever it is you should identify and examine the source of your frustration before you quit. This is important because if you don’t identify it you may quit just to get into another situation only to have similar results. If you are the source of your frustration, then you will continue to be the source of your frustration no matter where you are or who you are with.
So before you quit, pinpoint the problem by trying the following tips:
- Pray and ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. Most people when they want to quit they don’t pray for guidance to make the decision, they make the decision and ask God to co-sign. Let the Holy Spirit be your guide. It may very well be He lead you there to perfect you and you leave causes the enevitable REPEAT!
- Get another opinion. The scriptures tells us that there is safety in a multitude of counselors. Seek the advice of trusted mentors or other mature friends and family.
- Write the reason why you want to leave in a sentence. Writing reasons down gives you the opportunity to look at the situation from another perspective. Its also an awesome way to check your true motives.
- Give it time. Rash decisions are often wrong decisions that if a little more time or a little more effort was spent a horrific situation could have turned into a terrific one.
If you do these things I’m sure you will be confident in knowing when it is time to turn the page.
I’m Andrew Freed and you are an Overcomer In Christ.